A person with low EQ will exhibit these typical characteristics, making success difficult if they don’t change soon.
It’s past 10 PM, but a certain online community is still very active. The general discussion topic of this group revolves around designs in PowerPoint (PPT) software. Members can post their freshly completed works in the group and seek advice from others. Each poster hopes to receive praise and constructive feedback from fellow members, especially from the administrator, who is an expert in this field.
With many members posting tonight, the group is buzzing with activity. The group leader briefly comments on several PPTs, pointing out improvement areas that many may not have noticed. As it approaches midnight, almost no one is speaking up anymore.
At this moment, a member named “The Thoughtful One” submitted a PPT and invited the group leader to review and provide feedback. Many were surprised, wondering why this person’s EQ seemed so low. Asking others to review their work at midnight without considering that others might need rest? Moreover, through their interactions, it was evident that this person wasn’t familiar with the administrator. So why would they expect help from a stranger at such a late hour?
Seeing this, a group member responded that it was too late and the group administrator had likely gone to rest. The next morning, a new workday began, and “The Thoughtful One” once again tagged the group administrator, hoping he could provide feedback on their PPT. The group administrator responded enthusiastically, offering a wealth of comments for this member. However, “The Thoughtful One” continued to bombard them with questions, ranging from size and color to various minor issues. At this point, the group administrator began to show signs of impatience but still guided this person on where to search online for solutions.
Then, “The Thoughtful One” sent a long comment stating: “You have a responsibility to review my work, why are you asking me to find information online? I understand that you find it tedious to check and provide feedback on many PPTs, but do you know how difficult it is for me to create this PPT? I had to stay up until 2 AM. Just a few words from you could help me solve my problem, why make me waste several hours?”
According to other group members, the administrator only takes the time to provide feedback on PPTs when they can, sometimes even during busy work hours. Another member could no longer hold back and expressed their thoughts to “The Thoughtful One”: “If you don’t pay someone, don’t expect too much from them. Even if you do pay, it’s a reciprocal relationship based on negotiation.”
The person referred to as “The Thoughtful One” is a typical example of someone with low EQ. If you want to understand what a person with high EQ is like, you first need to understand what low EQ looks like, and then avoid these issues. Here are 5 typical signs of a person with low EQ:
1. Feels the whole world owes them and should serve them
The first sign of people with low EQ is feeling that the whole world should serve them and owes them something. If a few minutes of giving could save them hours of trouble, they believe others should give unconditionally. “The Thoughtful One” exhibits this mentality.
A person with low EQ feels the whole world should serve them and owe them. (Image: Internet).
This person always fails to understand where they went wrong and justifies their actions. So, if everyone in the world gave you 1 dollar, you would immediately become a billionaire. Yet, if you haven’t become a billionaire yet, how can you blame the world for not fulfilling its obligations?
2. Never thinks of others, only thinks about themselves
The group administrator mentioned that it wasn’t convenient for him to respond by typing, and “The Thoughtful One” suggested replying with a voice message. In reality, this person didn’t consider whether the group administrator’s environment was suitable for speaking. Naturally, they also didn’t think about whether their voice would disturb colleagues around them.
An ancient saying goes, treat others as you wish to be treated. If you want others to treat you well, you must first treat them well. Everyone hopes that those around them will treat them well, but few consider whether they are treating others well in return.
This type of person often faces two common issues. First, they quickly become depressed when others don’t treat them well or show them respect, leading them to feel angry and jealous. Such individuals are trapped in a cocoon and will bind their lives into a knot.
People with high emotional intelligence are very sensitive to others because they fear hurting others with their careless words. When facing someone else’s rudeness, they are generous and considerate: surely the person didn’t mean it, and there must be another reason. Imagine if everyone could do this, there would be no need to worry about unhappiness in life anymore.
3. Disrespects others
It is not uncommon for some people to show contempt in public. For example, some customers visit a bank to handle transactions and feel there are too few service counters open. Therefore, they raise their voices to question and demand an explanation from the management as to why a large bank only has one counter open during lunch.
A person with low EQ is never willing to help others. (Image: Internet).
When informed by the front desk staff that they need to take turns for lunch breaks, the customer retorted: “So when will my issue be resolved?” In such situations, many would want to ask, would that customer say the same if their child worked here? Can’t they offer even the basic respect others deserve?
4. Remembers their own kindness to others, but overlooks what others have done for them
People with high emotional intelligence naturally earn respect and appreciation from others because they are willing to help when others need it and always feel grateful when receiving help. Conversely, those with low EQ are the opposite; they are often unwilling to help others and rarely remember the good things others have done for them.
5. Lacks understanding of human emotions
Some people can grasp your meaning with just a brief conversation; they at least don’t misunderstand. However, some individuals are quick to lose their temper and get angry anytime, anywhere. These people often lack an understanding of human emotions, making it difficult for them to empathize in conversations. This is also a common sign among those with low EQ.
