Living well in the present and appreciating the scenery before us is what we should be doing the most.
We live one life, appearing to strive for and pursue something, but in the end, what we truly gain is not much. Many times, the things we fight for hold no real significance.
It’s similar to those moments when we become upset over someone else’s words, leading to arguments. We feel satisfied only after winning, but once we achieve that victory, we suddenly feel empty…
The character Bi Xia in the Chinese drama “Time Knows Everything” once had a profound love, but later, she caused deep harm to her partner.
Initially, they loved each other very much, but later, her partner lost feelings and chose to break up. After their separation, Bi Xia couldn’t accept it; she couldn’t understand and wanted revenge. She first sabotaged her ex’s romantic relationship, then his career, and ultimately his entire life.
After being ruined by Bi Xia, her ex chose to leave. No matter how hard she tried, she could never find him again; he refused to meet her even once.
At this point, she began to regret, wondering why she acted that way and why she had to destroy him to such an extent. But even with regret, it was useless; even if she wanted to apologize, she couldn’t do so directly.
Not long after, she learned of her ex’s passing. She was devastated and finally realized how disastrous her mistakes were and how cruel she had been…
In fact, many times, we find ourselves fighting over something, getting angry about something, pursuing something, or being upset about something, only to discover that in the end, it all means nothing. Those emotions lead us to make mistakes.
What are you seeking?
In life, do you have any aspirations? Is there something you desperately wish to attain?
A job? Love? Life?
Have you ever experienced the feeling of achieving what you always desired? Have you ever felt that moment of success wasn’t as joyful as you imagined?
In reality, regardless of what we pursue, no matter how much we want something, it is merely a desire within us. And this desire gradually changes and fades over time.
At the present moment, it may be your intense longing, but once you achieve it, it may just become a mere wish. Thus, it’s important to understand that whether it’s yearning or craving, everything has its limits; don’t focus too much on it and create pressure for yourself. Just take it easy.
What are you arguing about?
Have you ever argued with someone to the point of turning red in the face over something trivial? Or even argued to the point of turning against each other?
There’s a story like this:
A couple was sitting together, scrolling through their phones, and came across a water bottle. The wife said it was pink, while the husband insisted it was yellow. They started arguing about the color of the bottle, neither willing to back down. Eventually, a trivial issue like “the color of a water bottle” escalated into “are we compatible as a couple?” They argued more, each believing the other didn’t love them, and ultimately, they divorced!
Looking back, does the color of that water bottle really matter? Whether it’s pink or yellow, does it change anything significant? Is it worth arguing to the point of divorce over something so trivial?
We need to understand that sometimes, debate is necessary, but at other times, it holds no meaning. Meaningless arguments only lead us to lose more and miss the beauty right before our eyes.
What are you angry about?
Have you ever gotten so angry over something that you couldn’t eat, turning red in the face… but does that anger really mean anything?
Aside from making yourself unhappy and uncomfortable, it doesn’t serve any purpose. Therefore, many times, don’t get angry, don’t torment yourself. You need to realize that anger doesn’t solve anything; it only makes you more frustrated and uncomfortable. Instead of that, it’s better to think more openly and forgive yourself.
Allow yourself to slowly enjoy life, gradually respect others, and learn to love yourself, so you can feel the beauty and happiness of life. It’s also crucial to recognize that each person is unique; we don’t need to impose our rules on others. We can’t force others to be like us, nor can we demand how others should treat us; we can only set expectations for ourselves.
Instead of being angry, embrace yourself and be true to yourself.
What are you worried about?
Perhaps everyone has had thoughts like these, worrying about what tomorrow will bring, what the future holds, or how their life will turn out…
We worry about things that haven’t even happened yet and even about things that have occurred in the past…
We constantly bind ourselves, refusing to let go, thinking that worrying will change something. But gradually, you will realize that worrying and being anxious cannot change anything; they only prevent us from enjoying each day fully. Instead of that, it’s better to forgive yourself.
In fact, living life with aspirations is inevitable; everyone has their own plans for their lives. Many times, we believe these aspirations will make us happier and lead better lives, but from a certain perspective, it’s precisely because of these aspirations that we miss out on many things…
Therefore, don’t make things difficult for yourself anymore; don’t push yourself too hard. Life is only lived once, love yourself more, live more leisurely, don’t obsess over what you cannot reach, don’t argue over trivial matters, and don’t be angry about things that have already happened. Most importantly, don’t worry unnecessarily about things that haven’t even arrived yet.
